Bonsai

I have not been following my own advice. I have been taking on and/or agreeing to too many projects. Some of these I’ve been actively working on. Others, I have agreed to and have put mental energy into but have been putting off — too embarrassed to walk away from. I feel like I would be letting others down. The truth is, I’m only letting myself and those other projects that are truly important and take and deserve far more attention from me down even more.

This usually happens when I start getting deeper into writing a book. It is quite the vortex. It begins to swirl and consume all of my creative energy until there is none left for anything else. That is what is happening now.

Therefore, I’m going to spend this weekend contemplating my obligations like one contemplates a bonsai tree. Then, as in bonsai, I’m going to strategically prune that too long list to promote the beauty, energy, and health of what remains.

Be Quiet

There is safety in silence. There is no risk in being quiet and doing nothing. Ignoring problems may not make them go away but, at least, you are less likely to take the blame.

In fact, if they try, you can say you didn’t know about the problem and blame someone else instead. You were silent so how could they know the truth. Responsibility means action and that takes risk and, well, you don’t want that.

And, if you are called upon, just be quiet and stay still. Wait for someone else to raise their hand. It is far less likely you’ll be asked to do anything. Someone else will do all the work.

Oh, also, wait. Wait for someone else to tell you what to do. Then, only do that. Don’t do any more than asked. In fact, if you can get away with it, do less. Because, if you do more than that you might stand out. Others will think you are a troublemaker or brown-noser or that you are setting the bar too high. So, whatever you do, do it with the least amount of effort you can.

But, not a single one of these things will make your life better, let alone anyone else’s. Nor will any of these get you any further on any aspect of your life than you are right now. If you want anything to change, you have to speak up, take risks, be courageous, assume responsibility, take action, do more, and don’t wait.

Especially if you want to change the world. 1

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  1. Fellow introverts, I know you feel that being quiet is a core part of who you are. I get that. You know what? So did Gandhi, MLK, and Mandela. They were all introverts too

Recommendation: Bomba de Luz

Yesterday night, as I was driving home, I happened to catch an in-studio performance on Radio K of a band I had not heard of before. I do consider myself generally in touch with current music and even the local music scene but these guys were a complete revelation to me. Their name is Bomba de Luz.

After hearing the interviews with the band and hearing them play through a couple of songs, I was smitten. The music is big and deep and evocative. The lead singer, Lydia Hoglund, reminds me very much vocally of a female Jeff Buckley. Her voice has amazing tone and range. It floats and soars over the melody like the breeze just before a coming storm. The other musicians are all excellent too. Within you will hear folk, rock, jazz, and influences ranging from from Joni Mitchell to Radiohead.

I immediately bought both their self titled debut album, Bomba de Luz and their even better current offering, What A Heavy Weight. Both are highly recommended.

But, you don’t have to take my word for it, listen to the tracks below and hopefully you will be equally impressed.

Oh, did I mention these guys are all still in high school? High friggin’ school! Boy do these kids have a future ahead. I, for one, will be listening closely to see where they go. You should too.

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